Spill Your Soul

It’s Loud in Here.

It is loud in my head. Always.

From the minute I wake up in the morning to the minute I drift off to sleep at night, my mind is like a noisy city made up of hundreds of individuals sounds all coming together to create the song that is my life.

For those who have composed, organized thoughts, I’m sorry that I sound insane. But for those who have been both blessed and plagued with a creative mind that is forever attempting to operate on the unforgiving time clock of life, perhaps you can relate all too well.

Some days, the real time consequences of having a brain that works a million miles per hour and a body that is limited in its human abilities is draining. If only I could do things at the rate in which my mind thinks them up. If only I could gently hush the nagging of my thoughts in a way that would still allow my ideas to stream in so I could manage them and not neglect them.

The hidden gift in a burden is that after it has troubled you more times than you feel you can bear, you eventually get to a point where you ask why it has come. What has it come to teach you?

And here is what I have found:

We were not created with gifts with the expectations that we would give up those gifts in the pursuit of different ones.

A creator does not create something only to be upset that it is not something else.

A seamstress does not create a blouse and then rip it apart because it is not a dress.

A musician would not create a song and then be disappointed that it wasn’t a movie.

An artist would not paint a picture and then wait for it to turn into a sculpture.

And so, consider that God has not created you in the hopes that you would be someone different than who you are.

He intends to use you in a way that fulfills the purpose He has made you for. The creation does not tell the Creator what is was meant for, but rather the Creator gives life to the creation in such a way that its characteristics will lead the way toward its purpose.

Some gifts are easily recognizable. Others appear to be a burden or even a flaw until we look deeply into the possibilities of their purpose.

The loudness in my head isn’t meant to be silenced…it is meant to be channeled. I am not meant to have less ideas…I am meant to give life to my ideas. I don’t need to learn detachment from my thoughts, but rather discernment from what is sent from God and what is not. The persistent calling in my mind isn’t a preview of coming insanity, it is a call to action from the God I serve.

The loudness in our heads is not new news to our Creator. He is simply waiting to see what we will do with it.

So…what has been haunting you that you’ve perceived as a ghost when in actuality it is an angel?

What have you been seeing as your downfall that may truly be the thing meant to raise you up?

Detaching From the Unnecessary

There are certain words I use all the time, even if I don’t realize it. If you ask anyone who knows me well, they will tell you that one of those words, undoubtedly, is “unnecessary.”

Everyone who knows me knows that I hate having things that I consider to be unnecessary. This is completely ironic for me because as a kid, I was that person whose closet could not hold even one more piece of paper before the doors busted open and who was surely housing some unknown creature in the abyss known as “under the bed.” I kept everything.

Somewhere along the line I discovered how much I don’t like having things that I don’t use. I hate clutter and I hate waste. I wish this meant that my house was always perfectly spic and span, but I am still balancing who I am now and that 10-year-old kid who collected every sticker, magazine poster, and stuffed animal I could get my hands on. I am slowly learning how valuable it is to have what you need, want, and will use while saying no to things you don’t need, want, or use. As Americans, we are bred with such a consumer mentality; we are programmed to associate having more things with having more happiness and it just isn’t true. I’ve found that having less stuff frees my mind to focus on the things that are most important to me, and those things are never actually things at all.

“Unnecessary” will forever be one of my most used words. I literally  delight in discovering something to be unnecessary; for me, it is both freeing and rewarding. It means there is one less material thing for me to be distracted by, thus opening one more space to connect with something greater spiritually.

When you deem something to be necessary, you will do whatever needs to be done to get it. The danger in this is that all too often, we make things necessary that don’t line up with our core values and goals. If what you chase doesn’t line up with your true values, you will always feel dissatisfied.

If you are looking to detach from the unnecessary, begin in your home and with your belongings. Detaching from the unnecessary soul wise takes a little more work, but this is a good place to start. Evaluate what you have and consider what you could do without. Before you buy something, consider how much you really need it, how often you will use it, and if it will ultimately be an asset or a liability in your life.

I’m not talking about forcing yourself to live in lack, I’m talking about discovering the fullness in things you already have. 

Someone once told me they bought a sweater, only to realize months later that they had the exact same sweater in their closet already but didn’t realize it because it had been so long since they sorted through their clothes. Use the sweater as a metaphor for all the things in your life that you may be seeking without realizing that they are already in your possession. 

Here are 6 ways I declutter and detach from the unnecessary in my home:

  1. Clean out your bag – One time I found $50 in a bag I hadn’t used (or cleaned) in a long time. Whether you carry a purse, a backpack, a clutch, a wallet, a whatever, just clean it out. Throw away receipts you don’t need, organize your cards/money, and remove anything that doesn’t belong in there.
  2. Clean out your pantry – Throw away old food, expired medicines/spices, and organize. This actually makes grocery shopping so much easier too because you are aware of what you already have.
  3. Clean out your closet – Ask your self: When is the last time I wore this? Do I honestly see myself wearing this in the next year? Would I buy this again today? Is this faded or stained? How do I feel when I wear this? If you can’t remember when you last wore it or you don’t see yourself wearing it anytime soon, it’s time to let it go. If it’s faded or stained, the chances of you wearing it are very low…let it go. If the way you feel when you wear an article of clothing isn’t in accordance with the way you want to feel as a whole, let it go. It’s 2018, we don’t have time for outfits that don’t make us feel our best. Remove what you don’t need and donate it or re-purpose it.
  4. Clean out your cabinets – Organize. Again, take in to account what you already have and what you might need. That way, you can be sure to buy the right things the next time you’re at the store instead of getting more of what you already have. Throw away old makeup. If you weren’t aware, most cosmetics have a little jar like symbol on the bottom or back of it that tells you the recommended shelf life for that product. Get rid of random things you’ve collected through the years. I actually reserve a small cabinet in my bathroom as the “I don’t know what to do with this” cabinet. Anything I don’t really know what to do with at the moment but I can’t find it in me to throw away goes here. Periodically I realize that I’ve never gone looking for the things in that cabinet and I just get rid of all of it, or I find something cool in there and put it to use.
  5. Clean out your electronics – Delete old emails, old contacts, and old pictures that you will never care to look at again. We all have that one picture that we took 27 times but really only liked one of them…so delete the other 26 and free up some space. Also, this might not be for everyone, but I recommend unfollowing people on social media who don’t inspire you. The things that appear on our feeds have an effect on us whether we realize it or not, so make sure you’re only allowing positivity, inspiration, and greatness onto your feed and into your mind. Do you really need to keep up with people’s lives who you don’t even care about?  Free up your energy for better things.
  6. Clean out your car – Take out all of the jackets, papers, and whatever other random junk you’ve been saying you’ll take out later. Make “later” right now and see how nice it feels to get into a clean car.

 

Praying that the next time you sort through any clutter you may have results in the discovery of things that are unnecessary, so that you may move forward feeling lighter, more free, and more open to the things that are of true value in your life.

30 Days of Intentional Kindness

#30daysofintentionalkindness

Now that the craziness of the holidays has come and gone, most of us are beginning our journeys toward making this year our best year. What better way to begin the year than committing to filling the next 30 days with intentional acts of kindness.

There are over 2.5 billion active social media users. In true idealist fashion, I can’t help but think what if even just .1% of those users (that’s a tenth of a percentage, not even a whole percentage) committed to doing 1 act of kindness a day? That would be about 2.5 million acts of love each day that our world so desperately needs. 

I have listed 30 simple acts of kindness that I will be committing to doing during the month of January. I will be using my Instagram story to keep me accountable and hopefully inspire others to also participate in 30 Days of Intentional Kindness. Some acts will be done out of order, as I know that the act of the day may not necessarily fit with my agenda of that day ( for example, what if I don’t go out to get coffee on the 3rd day?). The point is to spread as much kindness as you can, not just to cross things off of a list. If you can do multiple acts on a single day, more power to you! Kindness is contagious – let’s get to it.

Here’s the list: 

Day 1 – Share a piece of wisdom – pass along something valuable to someone else in hopes of making their moment, day, or life a little better. *I have done this via my previous post from today which can be found here.

Day 2 – Donate old clothes/ household items – The beginning of the year (or month, or week, or day) is the perfect time to go through your things and declutter. Get rid of things you don’t need and even better yet, donate them and pass them along to someone who can use them. Look up shelters, churches, or donation centers like Goodwill or the Salvation Army in your area and detach from the unnecessary.

Day 3 – Buy a stranger’s cup of coffee – When buying yourself a cup of coffee (or tea, or a smoothie, or whatever else you drink), pay for the person behind you as well. You never know, you could create a chain reaction and inspire them to buy a coffee for the person behind them.

Day 4 – Leave an instant inspo – #instantinspo is something my sister and I began doing back in September when Target put all of their spiral notebooks on clearance for two cents (thanks Back to School). I have a serious obsession with notebooks and needed a reason to buy them all. We bought 500 notebooks and have been leaving notebooks paired with handwritten notes everywhere we go. The notes encourage whoever finds the book to write down their goals, dreams, prayers, and aspirations and to remember how powerful they are. You might have to wait until September to get the 2 cent deal on notebooks, but they regularly cost about $1. Today, grab a notebook, write a note of encouragement, and leave it somewhere for a stranger to find.

Day 5 – Buy a song on iTunes from a local artist – Most people don’t realize how expensive it is to make music for the aspiring artist. It costs thousands and thousands of dollars of an artists own money to get in the studio, pay sound engineers, create merchandise, travel to venues to perform, and so many other expenses you would never know about if you don’t either create music yourself or know someone who does. In the age of social media, more often than not, we have the privilege of listening for free. Today, spend the $1.29 to buy a song from an artist off of iTunes. It’s not about the money, it’s about showing that you recognize the sacrifice and dedication they put into their work. Such a simple act can be a push for your favorite artist to continue creating the music you love.

Day 6 – Ask to speak to a manager to report something good – Too often, customers only ask to speak to a manager if something is wrong, leaving those who are going above and beyond to never be recognized for their positive efforts. Today, when you have a positive interaction with an employee, ask to speak to the manager to tell them what a good job that person is doing.

Day 7 – Bake something for someone – Who doesn’t love fresh baked goodies? Today, bake something to give away where you see fit. If you can’t bake, gift something store-bought. It’s the act that counts.

Day 8 – Comment something positive on a stranger’s social media post – This takes two seconds to do. Leave a positive comment on the post of a person whom you don’t know and don’t follow.

Day 9 – Send a “Thank You” card – Think of something good that has happened to you recently and mail a card to simply say thank you. Most of us only get bills in the mail, so imagine the surprise when receiving a ray of sunshine via snail mail. The card can be for anyone – a friend, a family member, a colleague, an employee at a store you visited. Pass along kindness by way of saying thank you.

Day 10 – Donate money to the homeless – Who does a couple of dollars make more of a difference to, you or a homeless person? Give with a generous heart, knowing that God stores up treasures for you in Heaven according to the treasures you share with others on this earth.

Day 11 – Pay a compliment – Tell a random person you like their outfit, remind a friend how contagious their laugh is, or tell your boss how their leadership skills have positively impacted you. Whoever you choose, give them something positive to reflect on…you never know how that may affect their day.

Day 12-  Tape coupons to appropriate items at the store – A good amount of us (at least here in California) get tons of coupons in the mail, mainly for things we don’t actually buy. Today, when you’re headed to the store, grab one of those mailers out of your mailbox and leave a coupon for a stranger to find. I mean, I sure would like to find a coupon for money off of an item already taped to that item.

Day 13 – Text someone first thing in the morning to say how important they are – Start someones day off with a quick message to say how much you appreciate them…it can set the mood for their entire day.

Day 14 – Donate old books to the library – I love the library. I truly believe it is such a privilege to have access to so many books for free. Today, support your local library by donating those books you never read anymore.

Day 15 – Call a relative you haven’t spoken to in a while – Take an extra few minutes to call to say hello to one of your family members that you haven’t talked to recently. We are all so busy and often forget how much of a blessing it is just to be able to call our relatives at all.

Day 16 – Tape a dollar to an ATM– Happy depositing!

Day 17 – Tip extra- When you’re dining out, leave a few extra dollars on top of what you were already planning to tip.

Day 18 – Leave something for the mail person– Our mail carriers are so often forgotten because we rarely (if ever) see them. Leave a note, a gift card, or a small present in or near your mailbox (with a tag that says it’s for them) to say thank you for an often thankless job.

Day 19 – Leave a positive review – Similar to day 6, so often reviews aren’t posted unless it’s for a negative reason. Take a few minutes of your time to post/write/call in about a positive experience you had at a store or with a product.

Day 20 – Send an “I’m thinking of you” card or letter – Grab a card or a piece of paper and remind someone you care about that they are on your mind.

Day 21 – Donate money to a GoFundMe account– Social media has provided us so many ways to help each other. Pick a GoFundMe account that you trust and support, and donate a few dollars to the cause.

Day 22 – Tape an inspirational note in a book – Leave an encouraging note in a book at a store or a library for the reader to find when they get to a specific page.

Day 23 – Go over and beyond for someone you live with ( or for a neighbor or a friend if you live alone) – It is so easy to get in a routine with the people we live with (or around) that we forget to show them how important they truly are to us. Today, do something for someone in your household (or neighborhood or whatever) that requires a little extra effort on your part. Perform a household chore for them, bring them lunch, wash their car, the ideas are endless.

Day 24 – Leave a lotto scratcher for a stranger to find – Imagine how fun it would be to find an unscratched lottery scratcher, just waiting for you to see if it’s a winner or not. Tape a scratcher to a gas pump, give one to a store clerk, or just hand one to a stranger. It’s a fun gift of chance.

Day 25 – Spend time in prayer for 10 people– Make a list of 10 people who could use some prayer today. Spend 1- 2 minutes praying for each person on your list.

Day 26 – Instagram shoutout someone who inspires you – We are all inspired by someone. Take two minutes to give a shoutout to someone who positively impacts you via social media.

Day 27 – Surprise someone you love – Take a moment to do something for someone you love. Send flowers, stop by to say hello, provide an act of service they weren’t expecting – whatever it is, offer a pleasant surprise to someone close to your heart.

Day 28 – Share your gratitude – Incorporate gratitude into a conversation you’re having, tell someone that you appreciate them, or just put good vibes into the air. Either way, spread thankfulness for what you have and encourage others to do the same.

Day 29 – Leave a “you’re beautiful” note on a bathroom mirror– Why do we look at ourselves in the mirror? To make sure we look good! Tape a note to a bathroom mirror (or any public mirror) to remind the person looking at themselves that they are beautiful.

Day 30 – Do an Instagram giveaway! – Who doesn’t love to win free stuff via Instagram? Today, give away something to one of your followers. It doesn’t have to be something crazy or big, just something to say that you appreciate the connection you have with other individuals via social media.

 

 

This list can be incorporated into your daily life or used specifically when you start to feel out of touch with humanity. Let’s start a kindness movement, one day at a time.

 

Share your experiences with me and hashtag #30daysofintentionalkindness on any of your social media posts pertaining to this post!

 

Do You Watch Your Language?

What kind of words come out of your mouth the most frequently?

In focusing on being keenly aware of the energy I give and receive, I’ve started paying special attention to the things I say. What I mean by this is I’ve started being consciously aware of how often I use positive words and how often I use negative words.

Take your average day into account. How often do you use the words (or words similar to) “beautiful, amazing, grateful, blessed, thankful, incredible, faith, hopeful, appreciate, wonderful, great, happy, funny, inspiring, creative, love” or any other word or phrase that has a strong association with positivity?

Now, consider how often you use the words (or words similar to) ” bad, sucks, broke, hate, poor, unhappy, never, failure, sick, won’t, can’t, stupid, ugly, worthless, stressed” or any other word or phrase that is strongly associated with negativity? Which of the those words do you most often use to describe your life? More importantly,  which of those words do you most often use to describe yourself? 

Of course there are times when certain words are indeed accurate in their descriptions ( if you have the flu, of course you are “sick”), and it is absolutely crucial that we all live our truths (if you’re overwhelmed, feeling “stressed” is completely valid). I’m not talking about the words we use to describe occurrences that happen now and again; I’m talking about the ways we habitually speak about life as a whole.

Writer Anaïs Nin said ” we don’t see the world as it is, we see it as we are.” How often in your day do you intentionally focus on finding something that is beautiful? How often in your day do you say “thank you” out loud? How often do you pay a compliment? It is in the average, seemingly ordinary moments that we have the power to create our own reality. Speak what you want to see.

The more positivity you speak, the more you notice it from others. My mind has become sensitized to goodness; if you’re speaking positivity, I’m automatically listening. Consequently, negativity is less able to reach me – my brain either begins to filter it in order to find the good that can be pulled from it or it just begins to tune it out. The opposite also holds true for the person whose main focus is on the negative. You get to choose which life you will live; do you want to be tuned into positivity and unavailable to negativity, or do you want to be tuned into negativity and unavailable to positivity?

We have the power to be great and add greatness into our world beginning with the things we say.  Let’s speak life into all of our situations and then go out and flourish.

 

I’m a Mad Scientist, Are You?

I know the thing on social media is to pretend that you have your life all together, to seem and appear as if your life flows in perfect harmony made up only of fun and good times.  I however, do not have my life all together. Not even a little bit. Nine times out of ten it’s a mess, and I am utterly and completely winging it. You could call it chaos, you could call it “learning as you go”. Realistically, it is a combination of the two along with a sprinkle of faith and a dash of hope.

I am, by nature, a “safe” person. I like predictability, I like patterns, and I like control. Even my spontaneity is typically planned, and I have to overcome a great deal of anxiety if I come up against last-minute changes. You would think that with all of the changes life poses I would instinctively be more flexible instead of having to mentally rationalize every unforeseen circumstance to prevent having some kind of breakdown, but…I can’t always help it. This is who I am.

This year, whether intentional or not, I began to see myself as an experiment. I began to realize that control is just an illusion. If we have an ounce of control in this world, it truly lies only in how we respond to the things that go on within us and around us. And if we are to respond with grace and purpose, and not out of impulse or fear or anger, we must be what I naturally am not – flexible. We must not only be flexible and forgiving with those around us, but also with ourselves. We must see ourselves as being in a constant state of evolution…of learning…of growth.

Seeing yourself as an experiment removes the pressure of expected perfection and instead replaces it with room for wonder, hope, and excitement.

No one expects an experiment to be perfect – it’s an experiment. It’s a test to see whether or not something works. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you reformulate the experiment and try again. Consider it like those TV shows where the scientist is seen mixing the contents of random test tubes. Usually, a few blow up in his face until he mixes something that is revolutionary. The same may be true of you and your life; it absolutely is true of me and mine. A few things may result in unwanted explosions, but ultimately finding out what doesn’t work leads to the discovery of what does work. Each experiment teaches you something about yourself. Each experiment is an experience, and experiences are how we grow.

To succeed in an experiment, you need only to pay attention. Ask yourself often “What did I learn from this? What can I learn from this?” Even a “failure” is a step toward success. You can’t lose here.

This principle can be applied in all areas of our lives – from the smallest of things to the biggest of things. This year, experimentation has led me to realize that I am totally a coffee drinker. It also led me to realize that so many of the negative things I spent years believing about myself just aren’t true. It has given me a project that I am always working on and something to always look forward to.

In what areas of your life can you remove unnecessary pressure and begin approaching it using an experiment mentality?  What things have you been wanting to try but haven’t yet done so because of the fear of unexpected outcomes? If you ever find yourself in a position where you start to wonder whether or not something you’re doing is worth it or whether or not it will work out, simply tell yourself “it’s an experiment,” and continue on confidently in the direction of your goals.

My life is an experiment. Every day I am learning more about myself, evaluating where I can be more fearless, more creative, and more kind. Every day I am learning more about what I like, what I don’t like, what works for me, and what doesn’t work for me. Every day I am coming into who I truly am.

I don’t have it all figured out. Fear, hesitation, and worry still try to make their way into my mind. I am, daily, still winging it. But if there is one thing I know for sure, it is that I am the mad scientist of my own life. Can you say the same?

 

You are Where You Need to be

The past 8-9 years of my life have been a whirlwind of growth.

Truthfully, I can only call it growth now that I have learned to see it that way, but rewind to several years ago and I would have just called it “problems.” I have had serious relational, financial, emotional and mental and physical health issues. For a while I began to wonder if I was cursed, like if somewhere in my life I had done something so wrong that I deserved to be severely punished.

Before I could get to a point where I could tune in to what was going on in my life, I had to tune out negativity (both mine and that from others), bitterness, and sorrow. When you’re going through challenges of whatever sort, it can be extremely difficult not to be consumed by them. I remember praying one day and hearing so clearly that it felt like the message was truly audible, “this lesson is not only for you.” My initial reaction was confusion and then frustration. I was really supposed to believe that I was going through all of these things for the sake of passing along a lesson at a later time? Wasn’t there an easier way?

Naturally, I am a person who wants to connect; I have a calling to connect. Sometimes, I wonder why my life couldn’t have been easier at times. Why did I have to go through all of the trials I’ve gone through? And then I think…who was I going to connect with had I not? Other people who’ve had cookie cutter, spoon fed lives? There are so many more people who are hurting than there are people who’ve had perfectly easy lives. Where and who could I serve had my life been without its share of tests? In our quests to be more Christlike, we welcome being like Christ in His righteousness and divinity, but turn our heads to being like Christ when it comes to His suffering. Jesus didn’t go through persecution, crucifixion, and resurrection for His sake. He didn’t have things to learn or areas of His life from which He needed to evolve. He suffered for our sake. So if He, in His perfection, was not exempt, how can I expect to be?

Everything I have been through is not in vain; my experiences have led me to be less judgemental, more empathetic, and more open-minded. I have, by no means, “been through it all,” but I have been through enough to make me supremely grateful for the depth suffering produces. There are more complexities in this life than I will have time to uncover, but I am certain that every circumstance births an opportunity for me to connect with someone else. I have been called to connect, and with my calling sometimes comes pain. We often shun the process because we think that if we were on the right path it would be easy and fluid all the time. The truth is, you can be on the right path and still have to go through some things that you would prefer not to.

Where there is struggle, there is growth. Consider this concept in nature – a flower must work to break through the soil so that it may bloom. The process is natural, but that does not mean that it is easy.

Earlier today I listened to one of Bishop T.D Jakes sermons that talked about how God is a potter. When a potter is creating, He does so in steps or phases. First, He forms the clay. Then, He fills it and from this, the clay will then be ready to serve its function. In the forming stage, the clay is molded in a way that causes it to turn into something different from what it originally was. If at any time during the forming process the potter were to remove the clay from the wheel, it would be unfinished and unable to fully serve its function. You are God’s clay; you are His masterpiece. He is forming you, filling you, and has created you for a specific function. Do not fret if you are temporarily being uncomfortably sculpted – you are being developed into something amazing. Do not fear the fire – it is there to refine you, not to destroy you.

You are where you need to be; your trials aren’t for nothing. You have simply been called to use them in a way that will not only benefit yourself, but that will also lead to the advancement of those around you.

Your process is saturated with purpose, and that is something I pray you will always remember.

Don’t Let the Water in the Boat

I’m sure we’ve all pretty much either seen a meme, read a caption, or heard the quote:

“An entire sea of water can’t sink a ship unless it gets inside the ship. Similarly, the negativity of the world can’t put you down unless you allow it to get inside you.”

From this saying, I’ve adopted another short phrase that I tell myself whenever things start to get hard.

Don’t let the water in the boat.

I fully believe each of us are a vessel created to carry out a divine purpose. Sometimes, regardless of how purpose driven we intend to be, things are just flat out hard. There are so many aspects of life that can be overwhelming, confusing, frustrating, bothersome, or any combination of the four.

In those trying moments, it is important to remember a few things. The first being that trouble doesn’t last always. As I mentioned in a previous post, there are seasons for everything. The seasons in your life might change from year to year, month to month, or even from moment to moment. In the difficult seasons, it is crucial to remind yourself that this season is exactly that – a season.  Something better is brewing; a change of season is inevitable.

Furthermore, you cannot always control what happens in your life, but you do have the power to control how you respond. Take the situation you’re in now and really consider if the way you’re responding to it is contributing to your life in a positive way or in a negative way. If your response is making you feel worse about the situation, it might be time to reevaluate what you could do differently. There are always going to be things that throw us off of our game, it’s the way of the world. We can (and will) drive ourselves crazy if we try to control every thing that happens. However, if we make a conscious decision to do our best to approach life in a way that allows us to be at peace regardless of the situation, we will be for the better.

Helen Keller said if you keep your face to the sunlight, you cannot see the shadows. It is not that the shadows do not exist, but rather that you choose to focus on the light. You will always get what you focus on.

If you are in a negative space, here are four things I do to help shift my mood:

  1. Exercise. I know you’ve probably heard it 100 times, but exercising releases endorphins in the brain that serve as a natural mood enhancement. These endorphins are said to have effects similar to that of morphine, and you can feel this effect start to take place within 10 minutes.
  2. Change the space you’re in. Literally get a change of scenery. Go outside, go inside, go to the store, go for a drive, do whatever you need to do to change your physical space. Again, even if you only have a few minutes to break away, do it. Don’t quote me on any research data, but based on my own observations, it is much easier to renew your mindset after you’ve been physically refreshed. Try it.
  3. Find a release. What positive activity can you engage in to allow yourself to separate from the negativity that is trying to seep in to your life? Write, draw, sing, read, dance, find someone to laugh with, help someone in need, do anything that will encourage you to focus on goodness.
  4. Pray. Praying reminds me that I was never in control to begin with. In my hardest moments, I know that I can lay it all out for God, and He will handle it. An old friend once told me that praying is like putting all of the things that are on your mind into a backpack and then handing the backpack over to Jesus. Much like you would feel lighter without a heavy backpack dragging you down, you will feel lighter without all of the burdens you are trying to carry on your own.

Water has the power to both cleanse and destroy; you have the power to choose which role it will have in your life.

When things get hard, remember to keep your face to the sunlight and most importantly,

don’t let the water in the boat.